Cross Assault sexual harassment issue which provides some even more disturbing details:
Then Miranda forfeited a match
“…Things got a little more heated than usual when one player, Miranda ‘Super Yan’ Pakozdi, forfeited a match,” Destructoid reported. “The decision to throw the game caused a dispute as to whether or not forfeiting players would be kicked off the show, and how team points should be awarded. However, the thing that really got people talking was Pakozdi’s claims of mistreatment by notorious bearded gentleman, Aris Bakhtanians. Ostensibly, he made lewd comments about her and wouldn’t let up.” Destructoid also provided a video that’s hard to watch in places.
It’s important to point out that video comes from the first day of the competition. The stream where Aris defends and encourages the harassment of female players takes place on day five. That means this woman may have been mocked and sexually harassed for days without anyone stepping in, stopping the situation, or speaking to Aris. At one point during the stream there is even a conversation about the “Cap cops” coming in to shut things down, but the conversation about sexual harassment continues.
The fighting game community has been split on this issue, with some saying that this behavior is a part of the culture, and others attacking Aris and his preternatural ability to make the fighting game community look bad in the eyes of the general public.
“For Aris and a lot of other people (mostly guys, but it can include women, too), the fighting game scene is a chance for them to relax and be themselves, away from an insane, politically correct culture,” a member of the Shoryuken forum wrote. “For some guys, being themselves means making mildly lecherous comments or racial jokes. Now, a bunch of idiots are conflating and exaggerating this with actually being racist or sexist. That’s supremely fucking stupid, because they’re not even close to the same.”
The comments go and on, and very few make for enlightening reading. “I bet money that Miranda wouldn’t have been so offended if Aris was better looking, that is the sad part,” another member wrote, and I’m not even sure who to pity after reading that post: Aris, Pakozdi, or the person who decided that thought should be shared with the world.
I've also read elsewhere that if you watch her matches leading to when she forfeited, it looks as if she just stopped caring because of how toxic the playing environment had become. :\ That's really really awful and I feel so bad for her :(
I know some people will try to defend this as gamesmanship or "trash talking", but a) as I pointed out last post, even professional sports have put limits on trash talking and that includes attacking oppressed groups and using slurs and b) this isn't trash talking, it's harassment... in the video he keeps going into her personal space and c) there's nothing she could say to him that would have the same effect outside of using racial slurs, or homophobic ones, or etc... and is that really what we "trash talking" should be now? If somebody talks about raping me, I should either take it or try to hurt them back in the same level? -_- Trash talking is saying my strategy sucks, it isn't "rape that bitch" or using slurs.
And as PA points out, she's been harassed from day one, no wonder she forfeits by day 5. 5 straight days of (probably ever increasing) sexual harassment with nobody seemingly willing to stop it... it's not just 5 days of it, it's the idea that if she keeps playing, she'll be subjected to it continuously until the show finally ends. I think a LOT of people would quit in that environment, it's not just nonstop, you don't feel like it'll EVER stop and see only more harassment in the days to come. That's frightening and awful! ;-;
And then there's the comments. Video games are where people can be themselves. As long as you're a bigoted cis straight male asshole. Apparently if you're not of that group, then you can't be yourself otherwise you get slurred and threatened and harassed all day long. -_- Also, you can STOP being a bigot. You don't HAVE to say bigoted things (you can think whatever you want), I can't STOP being female, or STOP being trans, or STOP being Asian! >:| I'M the one BEING myself, Aris and his defenders are the ones choosing to be an asshole.
And that last comment just... sexual harassment is sexual harassment. It has nothing to do with how attractive he is! >_< Who knows? Maybe if he wore a nice hat, or was a cuddly cute SDed panda or something, she'd be okay with it too. Rather than speculate on what ifs as if this is HER fault somehow, how about this: DON'T SEXUALLY HARASS PEOPLE! It's like complaining that you were arrested for theft and saying that in some other circumstance the person would have been okay with you "borrowing" their car. That's irrelevant.
If she's okay with sexual harassment it's her choice, but it doesn't mean what you did wasn't sexual harassment, it just means she's okay with it and you got lucky.
Bottomline: DON'T FUCKING SEXUALLY HARASS PEOPLE!
The ending pains me to read, just how exhausted she must have been :( This s- is so awful and it saddens me to read that it's split 50/50 with people defending him and criticizing him :( I know video game culture is misogynist and heavily a boys club but... you assholes just sexually harassed and bullied (or defended/enabled sexual harassment and bullying) a female gamer into giving up being part of something she wanted to do and liked doing... I hope you're proud of yourselves.