Wow The Spearhead actually (accidentally) offers good advice to men to not rape! :D

I know my policy is MRAs are generally too ridic & irrelevant to give attention to in this blog, but this is different because without meaning to they gave actually pretty good advice to men (because they are only talking to men about hetero encounters) on how not to rape. O:

This is from an article about how to keep yourself safe from false rape accusations by those evil lying women.

And what I find fascinating is that in coming up with a list to avoid "false rape" charges, the MRAs have accidentally created the "don't rape" list! :D

Ignoring the usual paranoia (and that they advocate illegally filming people)... their advice to get clear consent, to make sure she's sober, to not assume consent to activities just because she's into rough sex, is actually the same advice that feminists give to people not to rape...

BEFORE HAVING SEX WITH A WOMAN:

Is she SOBER? Very inebriated women may claim to want or even demand sex, but it may be wise to see if “that was the alcohol talking”.

Are you sober? Did you leave any of your drinks unattended, or consume any drinks that she bought for you that you didn’t see being made? (The origin of the term “Mickey Finn” comes from a bartender who enabled female thieves at his tavern to drug men’s drinks.)

Are you using Birth Control? Note that while she may claim to be using birth control, it does not automatically mean that she is…shemay normally be on birth control but has forgotten to take it, or is experiencing a false period, or is using a form of birth control with a lower rate of effectiveness. Most of these factors have not legally excused men for having to pay child support, although they should.

Has she verbally consented to sex? It is better to ask “Do you want to make love?” and receive a positive response then to merely assume she’s consenting to sex via body language. Some colleges insist that males must receive verbal consent prior to intercourse, and any sex without it is non-consensual.

Does she display or claim enthusiasm for BDSM (bondage and sadomasochism) activities? As exciting as it may seem, do not permit a barely-known woman to handcuff you to anything (that you can’t break loose from on your own)!

Does she claim to ‘like it rough’? Even if so, that claim does not obligate you to play rough. No matter how insistent she may be, you should not bruise or break the skin.

During foreplay, or before or during coitus, does she ‘tense up’, act frightened or apprehensive? Does she cry? If so, she may have been previously raped or molested. Her sex drive still exists, but she may psychologically equate sex with pain, servitude or dishonor.

Although I'm pretty sure The Spearhead doesn't think any of the above is really rape (or should be considered rape), and they see it as a safety precaution against "false rape" charges, the practical effect of their advice (assuming their readers abide by it) is the same as all the various "don't rape" campaigns.... so... yay! (I'll pretend the rest doesn't exist e_e) Plus, the advice to their members to be responsible for their own birth control too! And strangely, they actually understand rape triggers... I almost want to hug the guy...

If the woman in the situation has in fact not been harmed, try to get a photograph of her (many cellular phones are equipped with cameras ideal for this situation). You may wish to hold up the day’s newspaper within part of the photo to prove the date, unless the camera ‘time-stamps’ its images.

Of course then they say stuff like that and I don't know whether to laugh or laugh and then headdesk. xD (Now I'm imagining a tumblr "men holding newspapers in front of their dates")

But if the MRAs take the above advice (except for the filming ppl w/o their consent thing) I give thumbs up! :D

(It makes sense too, whether they consciously realize it or not, that not committing rape would cut down on rape accusations against you)