Monday, June 29, 2009

Straight, Cis, White, Abled: NOT THE DEFAULT CENTRE OF THE UNIVERSE KTHXBAI

This is pissing me off

It's rly rly rly pissing me off.

Maybe it's cuz I just made that post yesterday about how being cis or straight or abled or white isn't a "blank canvas" or "default" or being a "regular person" and I'm still pretty mad about having to write it but...

ARGH

ARGH

And it's NOT just that people are being ignorant asshats! It's one thing to not have realized that you're treating yourself as default, it's ANOTHER THING that when that's pointed out to basically say "NO I AM NORMAL HOW DARE YOU ACT AS IF MY IDENTITY IS JUST ANOTHER VARIATION LIKE YOURS! YOU'RE THE ABNORMAL PPL!" >:| And it's ANOTHER ANOTHER THING that when trans ppl get mad about this, you bring up the whole "watch your tone" trap >:O

Esp on a site I liked and respected!?

WTF!?

It's like instead of having heterosexual and homosexual we have "people and homosexual people" which I'm sure some ppl will prefer too! Just like I've heard in context of The Simpsons somebody say that in the Simpsons, Asian people have white skin and "regular people" have yellow skin. Notice how it's not WHITE ppl, b/c white ppl are DEFAULT! >:O And that's the point, as I said, white, cis, heterosexual, abled... it's not a blank canvas, you aren't the starting point and believe it or not, who you are is just another variation, like the rest of us, you aren't the default state of being, you're just part of the spectrum! >:O

ARGH

And no, "not trans" doesn't work either just like "not a person of colour" doesn't work. It implies that you only need to be distinguished WHEN it's up against the socially oppressed/"different" group, when you need to say "I'm not THEM". >:| We get the special classification, you are default unless needing to specify that you're not "special", not "different" >:|

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

I'm too angry to write more >:| I'm not mad that ppl dun see it. I ttlly get that, I ttlly get how you can be blind to your privilege, or fall into these things.. it's easy... it's when they're pointed out to you and you STILL just shout back "NO NO NO I AM DEFAULT" >:O

*FLAILS*

ARGH

I'll leave you with what Furikku and Willow have to say about this BS. >:]

Sunday, June 28, 2009

Being straight is a sexual orientation too

B/c some ppl just dun seem to get it:

"Nobody needs to know your sexual orientation" is NOT THE SAME AS "Nobody needs to know you're not straight" which is what you REALLY MEAN when you say that.

Cuz that's essentially what all those straight ppl complaining about "special treatment" of queer ppl in stuff like pride or getting protection in the workplace mean when they say "nobody needs to know your sexual orientation" or "sexuality is private, don't flaunt it" or other BS. What they mean isn't that they see a VOID there, b/c if they did, they would jump on EVERY straight person who showed any indication that they're straight. What they mean is "straight is default, I don't need to know that you're NOT STRAIGHT".

Straight, cis, white, male, abled.

These things are NOT the default setting of humans, these things are NOT a blank canvas, they are NOT what we "all are underneath" and I'm sick of ppl acting as if they are. And THAT'S privilege, that as a straight cis person, you do a TON of things that display and indicate your heterosexuality and cissexuality ALL THE TIME and you dun even REALIZE it, and it's things that I have to worry about, and that ppl will point at and say "you're flaunting it" "you're making it a big deal" blah blah blah, b/c YOUR identity and YOUR sexuality is seen as normal, default, a blank canvas, how everybody should be, are PRESUMED TO BE and get treated AS with respect and catered to without NEEDING to ask for it, fight for it, or beg for it.

Saturday, June 27, 2009

You flaunt your straightness every single fucking day.

This is a rant that's been building in me all week. >.<;;

Right now it's Pride week in Toronto and it's awesome fun and greatness :] Today was the Dyke March, yesterday was the first ever Toronto trans pride march and both were just awesome and great and rly fun to see ppl out and proud and everything :D

But what rly is bugging me is that of course all the complainy white straight cis ppl are out in droves in like letters and newspaper comments and stuff (well on thestar.com neways, the other papers seem to be ignoring Pride mostly >.<) doing the usual "I don't care if you're gay just don't flaunt it" and "where's straight pride day?" and about gay rights in the workplace "nobody flaunts their sexuality, why should you be special" and that simply not hiding who we are in public or in the workplace is "flaunting" it.. and on and on and on...

And since all the comments are closed by the time I get to these articles, I'm gonna put my rant here:

Let me tell you about flaunting your sexuality and gender identity and straight pride day complainy straight people (to avoid confusion I'm going to pretend these are complainy male ppls, for female ones just reverse the gender but otherwise if I just use "or" or "girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife" the point might get a little diluted).

You flaunt your sexuality when you talk about how attractive you think a woman is.

You flaunt your sexuality when you put a picture of your girlfriend/wife on your desk at work.

You flaunt your sexuality when you put up posters of hot girls, or buy a "men's magazine".

You flaunt your sexuality when you hold your wife/girlfriend's hand, or kiss them or put your arm around them or they put their arm around you.

You flaunt your sexuality by saying "I'm buying flowers for my wife/girlfriend, what would be a good choice?" or any time you talk about them period.

You flaunt your sexuality when you marry your fiancee and announce it to ppl (or in jurisdictions without gay marriage, simply by GETTING/BEING married).

It's your straight pride march when ppl assume you're straight and ask a question without knowing nething about you about your wife/girlfriend or assume you're interested in women even if it's just "hey, check her out".

It's your straight pride march when media targetted at you assumes you're attracted to women.

You flaunt your cissexuality every time you show your ID and the gender marker matches your gender and you didn't need a doctor to "confirm" nething to get it changed.

You flaunt your cissexuality by going to the male washroom.

It's your cis pride march every time ppl assume and refer to you as a man or with male pronouns.

It's your cis pride march when you ask ppl to call you by a nickname or another name other than your EXACT birth name and they do it.

It's your straight cis pride DAY every fucking day that you go out and don't have to worry that either you have to NEVER mention and never show any sign that you're straight or you're cis or if you try to "Flaunt" it, you might face harrassment or violence or abuse or worse.


That's all I can think of for now (I'm still more in a celebratory mood than a ranty mood) but these are ALL THINGS that when *WE* do it, we're told we're "flaunting" our sexuality/gender identity and "pushing" it on ppl, and making a big deal and etc.. when these are ALL THINGS that straight cis ppl are PRIVILEGED to have as DEFAULT that a lot of them never even THINK OF or give a second thought to as "flaunting" or having it be "pride day" (i.e a day where you can be you and ppl assume correctly about your sexuality or gender identity and those things are catered to).

I mean the trans pride march is a time I can walk down the street and ppl KNOW I'm trans and that's FINE.. IN fact b/c I'm in the march ppl ASSUME I'M TRANS. I mean the whole "well don't push it on ppl".. so my options are either to hide stealth or be regarded as a "man in a dress" or "tranny" or "shemale" or risk being beaten up or worse? Going about and not having to worry about that and having everybody assume and know you're cis is stuff that cis ppl do ALL THE TIME. And if I do it for THIRTY MINUTES ONE DAY OF THE YEAR it's "flaunting it" and "pushing it" on ppl?!!?

Same with the washroom, or even medical treatment, or a billion other things I prolly didn't even mentioN! A billion little assumptions and privileges straight cis ppl get EVERY SINGLE DAY that they take for granted, that acknowledge and endorse and EMBRACE their gender identity and sexuality and queer and trans ppl can't get ONE DAY of that!?

When's straight pride day?

Every day is straight pride day.

Friday, June 26, 2009

A Real Live Ami Appears :O

For nebody in Toronto or who'll be in Toronto this weekend and is prolly going to Pride, I'll be at the Trans March today (Friday), prolly the Dyke March on Saturday and maybe Pride on Sunday (still dunno what group I'll be with yet tho if I'll be in the parade :o ), just an FYI if you want to play "spot teh Ami" :D (or come up to me and say hi! :] )

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Oh f that noise >.<;;

From the IGN preview of The Last Airbender:

Cast-wise, Shyamalan chose actors with a "spectrum of colors" in their acting palette. Newcomer and dead-on Aang lookalike Noah Ringer (who, at 12, is already a black belt in Taekwondo) plays the title role; semi-newcomers Nicola Peltz (Deck the Halls) and Jackson Rathbone (a.k.a. Jasper Cullen of Twilight fame) play siblings Katara and Sokka; while Dev Patel -- in his first post-Slumdog Millionaire role -- plays evil-yet-vulnerable, Prince Zuko.


Whut.

dead-on Aang lookalike Noah Ringer

WHUT.

And I have no idea if M Night said the "spectrum of colors" thing on purpose just to mock the ppl who are mad about this film or what.. but... if not *HEADDESK* how can you SAY THAT WITH A STRAIGHT FACE when you've whitewashed all the heroes!? And if on purpose.. then my opinion of him sinks even lower. >.<;;;

Saturday, June 20, 2009

With apologies to my friends who are Phillies fan

I'm not a huge baseball fan (tho I do watch and cheer for the Jays when I catch them on TV :] ) but even I'm rly impressed by this and the "heads up" ness (or whatever it is that baseball ppl say xD) that Marco Scutaro showed (I <3 him) :D Also huge inattentiveness by the Phillies :O Bad Phillies! >:| Or good Phillies I guess.. xD

"Excuse me, I have to defuse a bomb." xD

Tired and bleeding from various wounds (I have not had a good week physically needless to say >.>;; ).. must sleep and heal... only one thing to say:

Nancy Drew is the best movie evar

It srsly is XDDDDDD

Also it has so many great lines XD

And Nancy is Batman. :3

But srsly.. if you want to watch a fun movie with an awesome female hero and that breaks a whole asston of tropes (esp sexist ones) in movies, I ttlly recommend this :D

Sunday, June 14, 2009

And it's FOUR HOURS LONG xD



This looks like the most hilarious movie EVAR xDDD Srsly..

I mean it alrdy has like one of the most hilarious trailers evar... and the slogan... "get ready for the dark side of the moon" xDDD

And like... oh noez, the moon is attacking us! We must shoot missiles at it or it will eat our childdreeennnn!!!!

XDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

Greatest. Trailer. Evar.

Also is Zefram Cochrane in all of these things? xDDD

Saturday, June 13, 2009

And thus ends the Ami Olympic Dream thwarted by a strange combination of Corporate Branding and English Class

On a whim I applied to be part of the Olympic torch relay via Coca Cola (you can only apply thru them or Royal Bank and I applied thru both) b/c I thought it might be fun... apparently there is a 2nd hilarious step besides a random draw to become a torch relay person.. as I found out thru email today xD

b. Round 2 – Essay Writing Competition: You must be selected, confirmed and verified as a Round 1 Sweepstakes winner to be eligible to participate in the Contest. If you are selected as a Sweepstakes winner during Round 1 (the Sweepstakes Period), visit http://www.icoke.ca and follow the links and instructions to upload 1 essay that expresses how you are Living Olympic on the Coke Side of Life


o_O

I have to write an essay about how I am living on the COKE SIDE OF LIFE!? xDDDD

o_o Well um ok... I'm living the Coke side of life by travelling across the galaxy to learn the ancient Coke arts to become a Cola Knight like my father before me... wait.. what... he was actually a Pepsi Lord who slaughtered all the Cola Knights!? No! That's not true! THAT'S IMPOSSSSIIIBLLLLLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

>.>

<.<

On second thought... I think I'll pass... >.>;; Or submit it as my essay xD I just need like another 180 words now to reach the 200-220 word law thingie they have >.>;;; It's like English class all over again xD

Thursday, June 11, 2009

We rly do need a bad comics fairy >.<;;;

[14:03] Ami Angelwings: after sleeping on it
[14:03] Ami Angelwings: i think i rly hate red robin #1
[14:05] Zhinxy: those are good lines, I haven't slept on it yet!!!
[14:05] Zhinxy: hee hee
[14:05] Zhinxy: After sleeping on it, I think I really hate this whole year of batcomics
[14:05] Zhinxy: And it's not going to get much better
[14:05] Ami Angelwings: after sleeping on it
[14:06] Ami Angelwings: i was dissapointed there was no bad comics fairy
[14:06] Ami Angelwings: that would take them away and give me my money back
[14:06] Zhinxy: *DAIZ*


Where do I go to speak to the Commissioner of Fairie Employment or whatever agency is in charge of fairies? In this recession esp, this could create valuable jobs for fairies :D

Tuesday, June 09, 2009

XDDDDDD *luffs*

XDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

*luffs*

Who needs a bingo card to deal with trolls when you have this? xD

Sunday, June 07, 2009

As a hockey fan and a Star Wars fan..

This is brilliant xD

I am infinitely amused :D

Also:

This listing and this one are hilarious too XDDDDDD

Wednesday, June 03, 2009

DC viral marketer screwing up or clever channer? :O

Zhinxy showed me this :o



:O

Real or not real? :O

Gamer Comic Ami is Thought Experiment Ami

I had this thought while debating whether or not to get Jump Ultimate Stars for DS today (somebody on Clist was selling it)... I chose not to ultimately b/c.. well.. I dun read any Shonen Jump Properties (the only one I'm familiar with is DB) and I can't read Japanese and playing with chars that mean nothing to me is not rly appealing. xD

But while talking to Zhinxy, I said "I rly wish DC would come out with a game like this". Like 300 characters, 50 of them fully playable (the rest in supporting roles) from all of their properties. Forget about trying to do all the detailed CGI stuff they seem to love now (with like DC vs MK) but just... have animations and have them fight Smash Bros style! xD it would be super fun! :D

Imo neways >.>;;;

But I was thinking.. wow.. who would I choose for just the 50 playable chars... if you include villains, you run out of space pretty fast.. and if you include all of their properties, including Vertigo, Wildstorm, etc... :O

Of course you also get 250 other chars to add... xD

Neways, I thought this might be a fun thought experiment... who would YOU have for the fully playable 50 chars (of whatever your favourite company is, it doesn't have to be DC, it could be Marvel or Image or whatever)? I need to think a bit before making my list, esp since I'm not that familiar with Vertigo... it's rly hard to try to balance it all out among the different properties and not leave ppl you like out too... like 50 seems like a lot, but then you think of just in Superman and Batman stories alone, you can get a lot of fav chars out of that :O

Definitely I'm having dreams of my Roxy/Kara team tho xD

But srsly... that would be an awesome game *-*

You're f-ing advocating child abuse you transphobic asshats!!!! >:O

I think I'm going to be sick

June 2, 2009— In a lengthy May 28 tirade on the Rob, Arnie & Dawn in the Morning radio show heard in Sacramento, California on KRXQ 98.5 FM and Reno, Nevada on KDOT 104.5 FM, hosts Rob Williams and Arnie States verbally attacked transgender children. While discussing a recent story about a transgender child in Omaha, Nebraska and her parents’ decision to support her transition, the two hosts spent more than 30 minutes explicitly promoting child abuse of and making cruel, dehumanizing and defamatory comments toward transgender children.


I'm not going to link to the MP3 of the radio show but there's a link to it on the GLAAD site..

ROB WILLIAMS [11:12]: This is a weird person who is demanding attention. And when it’s a child, all it takes is a hug, maybe some tough love or anything in between. When your little boy said, ‘Mommy, I want to walk around in a dress.’ You tell them no cause that’s not what boys do. But that’s not what we’re doing in this culture.

ARNIE STATES [13:27]: If my son, God forbid, if my son put on a pair of high heels, I would probably hit him with one of my shoes. I would throw a shoe at him. Because you know what? Boys don’t wear high heels. And in my house, they definitely don’t wear high heels.

ROB WILLIAMS [17:45]: Dawn, they are freaks. They are abnormal. Not because they’re girls trapped in boys bodies but because they have a mental disorder that needs to be somehow gotten out of them. That’s where therapy could help them.

ROB WILLIAMS [18:15]: Or because they were molested. You know a lot of times these transgenders were molested. And you need to work with them on that. The point is you don’t allow the behavior. You cure the cause!

ARNIE STATES [21:30]: You got a boy saying, ‘I wanna wear dresses.’ I’m going to look at him and go, ‘You know what? You’re a little idiot! You little dumbass! Look, you are a boy! Boys don’t wear dresses.’

ARNIE STATES [29:22]: You know, my favorite part about hearing these stories about the kids in high school, who the entire high school caters around, lets the boy wear the dress. I look forward to when they go out into society and society beats them down. And they end up in therapy.

To her credit, co-host Dawn Rossi stood up to Williams and States during the segment.
Despite her apparent lack of familiarity with transgender issues, Rossi repeatedly defended transgender people and made an on-air apology for her colleagues’ defamatory remarks.


I feel sick. >.<;; It's not just "I'm annoyed that ppl are saying blah blah" but... ppl advocating violence against transppl... and against CHILDREN... and it baffles my mind we need a write in campaign, that there is ANY debate that what they said is wrong and disgusting! >:O They're advocating CHILD ABUSE FOR CHRISSAKES!!

And as for "society beats them down"... I love how they just act like society IS, and not like that transphobic attitudes exist partly b/c of ppl like them promoting it and promoting violence against us! >:O

We end up in therapy cuz of ppl like you JACKASS!!! >:O

I just.. *screamings* >:O

TAKE ACTION NOW!
Please contact KRXQ management in Sacramento, California, where the show is produced and demand that radio show hosts Rob Williams and Arnie States publicly apologize. Call on KRXQ to hold Williams and States accountable for their remarks and establish clear standards to ensure their media platform will not be used to condone or promote violence against any parts of the communities they serve.

John Geary
Vice President & General Manager
KRXQ-FM
(916) 339-4209
jgeary@entercom.com

Arnie States
On Air Personality
KRXQ-FM
(916) 334-7777
rad@robarnieanddawn.com

Rob Williams
On Air Personality
KRXQ-FM
(916) 334-7777
rwilliams@entercom.com


I'll just end with that b/c I haven't eaten all day (of course... :\ Today is not going well in terms of fighting my ED :( ) and I feel rly fainty...