This is a rant that's been building in me all week. >.<;;
Right now it's Pride week in Toronto and it's awesome fun and greatness :] Today was the Dyke March, yesterday was the first ever Toronto trans pride march and both were just awesome and great and rly fun to see ppl out and proud and everything :D
But what rly is bugging me is that of course all the complainy white straight cis ppl are out in droves in like letters and newspaper comments and stuff (well on thestar.com neways, the other papers seem to be ignoring Pride mostly >.<) doing the usual "I don't care if you're gay just don't flaunt it" and "where's straight pride day?" and about gay rights in the workplace "nobody flaunts their sexuality, why should you be special" and that simply not hiding who we are in public or in the workplace is "flaunting" it.. and on and on and on...
And since all the comments are closed by the time I get to these articles, I'm gonna put my rant here:
Let me tell you about flaunting your sexuality and gender identity and straight pride day complainy straight people (to avoid confusion I'm going to pretend these are complainy male ppls, for female ones just reverse the gender but otherwise if I just use "or" or "girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife" the point might get a little diluted).
You flaunt your sexuality when you talk about how attractive you think a woman is.
You flaunt your sexuality when you put a picture of your girlfriend/wife on your desk at work.
You flaunt your sexuality when you put up posters of hot girls, or buy a "men's magazine".
You flaunt your sexuality when you hold your wife/girlfriend's hand, or kiss them or put your arm around them or they put their arm around you.
You flaunt your sexuality by saying "I'm buying flowers for my wife/girlfriend, what would be a good choice?" or any time you talk about them period.
You flaunt your sexuality when you marry your fiancee and announce it to ppl (or in jurisdictions without gay marriage, simply by GETTING/BEING married).
It's your straight pride march when ppl assume you're straight and ask a question without knowing nething about you about your wife/girlfriend or assume you're interested in women even if it's just "hey, check her out".
It's your straight pride march when media targetted at you assumes you're attracted to women.
You flaunt your cissexuality every time you show your ID and the gender marker matches your gender and you didn't need a doctor to "confirm" nething to get it changed.
You flaunt your cissexuality by going to the male washroom.
It's your cis pride march every time ppl assume and refer to you as a man or with male pronouns.
It's your cis pride march when you ask ppl to call you by a nickname or another name other than your EXACT birth name and they do it.
It's your straight cis pride DAY every fucking day that you go out and don't have to worry that either you have to NEVER mention and never show any sign that you're straight or you're cis or if you try to "Flaunt" it, you might face harrassment or violence or abuse or worse.
That's all I can think of for now (I'm still more in a celebratory mood than a ranty mood) but these are ALL THINGS that when *WE* do it, we're told we're "flaunting" our sexuality/gender identity and "pushing" it on ppl, and making a big deal and etc.. when these are ALL THINGS that straight cis ppl are PRIVILEGED to have as DEFAULT that a lot of them never even THINK OF or give a second thought to as "flaunting" or having it be "pride day" (i.e a day where you can be you and ppl assume correctly about your sexuality or gender identity and those things are catered to).
I mean the trans pride march is a time I can walk down the street and ppl KNOW I'm trans and that's FINE.. IN fact b/c I'm in the march ppl ASSUME I'M TRANS. I mean the whole "well don't push it on ppl".. so my options are either to hide stealth or be regarded as a "man in a dress" or "tranny" or "shemale" or risk being beaten up or worse? Going about and not having to worry about that and having everybody assume and know you're cis is stuff that cis ppl do ALL THE TIME. And if I do it for THIRTY MINUTES ONE DAY OF THE YEAR it's "flaunting it" and "pushing it" on ppl?!!?
Same with the washroom, or even medical treatment, or a billion other things I prolly didn't even mentioN! A billion little assumptions and privileges straight cis ppl get EVERY SINGLE DAY that they take for granted, that acknowledge and endorse and EMBRACE their gender identity and sexuality and queer and trans ppl can't get ONE DAY of that!?
When's straight pride day?
Every day is straight pride day.