WT F-ING F!?
That's like the biggest load of weasel words evar! >:O
Esp the whole "we haven't been able to fully accomodate transppl" thing!
How? o_O Like srsly.. how...?
What possible accomodations could we need!? It's the community of ppl who frequent this dating site that would be accomodating us or not, not you! If ppl want to date us and find us interesting, then what's the PROBLEM!? And shouldn't it be up to US to decide what (if any) "accomodations" we would need?
If the problem is something about the gender selection drop box (for ppl who dun necessarily identify as male or female, which isn't even the problem here) or adding that to the search engine then FINE, say that you dun currently have a non binary gender in your choices and let your clientelle decide if that's fine for them (it prolly would be for many transppl) but that shouldn't mean you have to BAN TRANSPPL FROM YOUR SITE!
Srsly, if transppl dun think you have proper accomodations, then they can CHOOSE whether they want to join or not, but to just BAR US FROM JOINING!?!?
And if a transperson joined and didn't reveal their trans status, then it'd be ok? But if we even mention it then, bye!? B/c .. you can't accomodate our needs... of.. what.. needing to have a budgie delivered to us every Wednesday for our sadistic sexual rituals or something!?
basically their flimsy excuse boils down to "we're banning you for your own good"
Srsly.. whut
"The founder and CEO is gay, and we have an operations person who is gay. It’s a very liberal workforce and company as a whole," said Brown.
Um.. so... then you can't possibly be transphobic right? That's an even dumber excuse than "I can't be racist against black ppl, I have black friends!" that's... "I can't be racist against black ppl, I have Asian friends!" xD
o.O;;
Ugh, what a poor excuse for an inclusive queer friendly site! >:O And what makes me esp mad is how they're being so weaselly about their blatant cissexism. >:|
"I am sorry, as a transgender, our site would not meet your needs. I am afraid we have to remove your profile," wrote Dupuis,
"We do not have a site appropriate for transgenders.
"Transgenders"? "A transgender"? Could you be ANY MORE BLATANT ABOUT HOW YOU VIEW US!? I am a bisexual woman, I am a transsexual woman, I am an Asian woman, I am a transgendered PERSON, I am not "a transgender"! That's the THING!!! They act as if "transgender" is SOMETHING TTLLY DIFFERENT from "regular" queer ppl. That "transgender" is our sexual orientation and our gender, NO MATTER WHAT WE SAY. We can't possibly be male, female, gay, straight or bi, we're strange MAGICAL UNICORNS!!! Or magical UNICRONS which would be great b/c then I would be a giant robot that can level their company XD
Brown told Bay Windows that despite TangoWire’s exclusion of transgender customers the company strongly supports the LGBT community.
That's the most hilarious thing evar. You know there's a T in LGB*T* right!? >:O
I'm getting rly tired of this attitude among some GLB ppl that transgender is the least important part of GLBT, as if the T means "tacked on" (as somebody so perfectly put it) or something. >:|
He said Teich violated the company’s terms of service by changing the gender on his profile.
If it's against your terms of service, why would you even allow ppl to do it? >:O Nice try to cover your butt. EPIC FAIL.
And the way they accused him of trying to "sneak into" the lesbian site too just shows their ignorance of trans issues and our experiences and that they wun even LISTEN to his explanation! (also it shows that their site is set up horribly)
Maybe those are the accomodations that they supposedly can't provide us: understanding and respect.
Edit: Rachel has pointed out the feedback/contact link on their site as a means to protest, and I agree with her *nods* I encourage any and all ppls who are also disgusted by this to write in saying so! >:\ I dunno if it'll help but it can't hurt. >:D
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LOL Well put!
RAGE!! they are such stupid-heads who are stupid.
Hey, they have contact link right on their frontpage!
So I did, and I'll be encouraging others to do the same.
Damn. It really pisses me off to see this sort of stuff coming from within the queer community. I mean, you expect this sort of thing from straight people (err, straight cisgendered people), but to claim to be inclusive and then pull this crap?
Bleh.
Sably, there are some elements in the LGB comm who are cissexist and transphobic, who think transppl give queer ppl a bad name, that we're too "freaky" and hurt ppl's acceptance of them :( Or they think we're just gay ppl who are trying super hard to be "normal" by thinking we have to be the "correct" gender for our sexual orientation (I hate that assumption that transppl are all straight and transition just to be straight, that my gender identity has nething to do with my sexual orientation) :\
And srsly, it's so dumb how they're claiming to be so supportive of the GLBT comm when they dun even respect or listen to the T part of that acronym! >:O
What I really don't understand is their statements after all this broke that they're just somehow "unable" to accomodate transgenders. Something about not having "the capacity" for it.
Like it's some intrinsic quality they have that's a sort of no-fault thing they have no control over. It came with the universe, was already here when we found it.
When actually it's just a combo of unwillingness, computer code and bigotry.
This really makes me sad, Ami.
I started writing a message and they cut me off telling me to "write a brief message so they can respond quicker."
. . .
I'm writing to you because of a very sad story I read about your site. I believe it is very insensitive of the site to make poor excuses about allowing transsexuals have memberships openly.
I'm not transsexual, but I do care about people and feelings. I'm utterly disgusted by the fact that your site has said awful things such as "we can not accommodate transsexuals". This doesn't make any sense what so ever. You back your statements up with poor excuses like "Our founder/CEO is gay, so we have diversity." Yet you're making it seem as if it's impossible to just add a few options.
I just can't believe how your site would discriminate against transsexuals for no good reason. It's like you're saying transsexuals don't have feelings, or deserve to be loved and cared for. They're lonely like everyone else and turn to social networking sites to search for new friends.
This is very sad indeed. Please change your policies.
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